The Scoreboard – Gameweek 8 – Sunday

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listen to your mum

Which uni are U at out of curiosity?

Stay put and soldier on it will be worth it in the future and you'll get used to your new surroundings soon enough.

Try to look at the bright side of life, think about 100 pts, not about University, I am sure it will get better

University was the best 3 years of my life, make great friends that you'll have for life, throw yurself into everything in first few weeks, try to spend as little time actually in your room as possible!

Ride the stress out.

It will soon be over, it is normal for couple of weeks or months even.

Stay put and force yourself to go out and meet people.

best days of your life they say

Comments are very harsh, don't mind them

Only thing I can say is try your hardest to push through it. I get that it seems like a mountain to climb (trust me), but it will in all likelihood be worth staying in the long run.

Mate, it always take time to adjust.

Stay for a bit longer. Join a few social clubs (what sports do you play? Or even join a new one, like Ultimate Frisbee). I'm sure you'll feel better once you have a few people who you can relate to and socialise with.

Give it a few more months to get settled would be my advice, if you can stand that.

is the course important for your career plan? how old are you?

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What's going on man?

University isnt for everyone. I will say that i knew a couple of friends who hated it at the start but stuck at it and ended up loving uni. Its a big change. Are you struggling to make friends?

been there, done that.

A lot of people find it really tough initially so don't worry about that.

Are you in shared accomodation and have your classes started yet?

My advice would be simply do as much as you can and meet as many as you can. Sports clubs, warhammer, whatever you are into. Eventually you will meet people you really get on with and then it gets easier and easier.

first world problems

The transition is always difficult. Stick at it for a term and see how you feel then.

Your mum will not be around forever.....man up otherwise you will be nothing in life. There will be people with your interests, join societies etc etc

Well I had couple of tough weeks (nothing like you though) as well as I was one of the very few ones not from that state. However, made some friends, focused a bit in studies and yeah, kept talking to family - these helped a lot.

Also, if you take initiative and reach out to people to befriend them, rather than waiting for them to rach out to you - that will be helpful

Don't listen to anyone giving you crap on here. University isn't for everyone. Speak to a career advisor and assess your options.There are alternatives, such as apprenticeships. Get in touch with an advisor, you won't be the only person going through this.

Start enjoying University , Best part of life. U will have many good memories in the enD and experiences too 😀

dude, sorry you feel so down.
i'd look at identifying the main reason. you may be suffering depression, or may just have anxiety, but the 20 mins bit concerns me.
i know i'm a shite on here, but hate to see people down. talk and communicate fella. it'll help (even if it doesn't feel like it)

What is it you hate?

Personally I adored university and wouldn't trade that time for anything but I know my wife didn't adapt and dropped out after a couple of months. I don't think either of us regret our decisions. I would try to ride it out but this has to be your decision.

You're homesick, it's normal. Stick it out, make a bunch of friends and enjoy your life! I guarantee when you look back on this moment in a few years time you will realise it was all worth it 🙂

Stick it out mate, I went through the same. It was the hardest thing ever but it really does get better. When people say it's the best time of your life that just makes you feel twice as bad when you're not enjoying it. Every aspect of your life has suddenly changed overnight - it's totally normal to feel like you do. It's just a shock to the system at first. Small steps, don't get overwhelmed with everything. You can do it.

It can be a big adjustment especially if it's your first time living away from home. You may miss your family, friends and home comforts, combined with coming to terms with new surroundings and new places etc. My advice is to try as many new things as possible, clubs and societies I mean. See what clubs there are and what interest you and join them. Some you may drop out of after a couple of weeks while others you may really enjoy over the next couple of years. This will be a good way to get to know people. If there are class parties go to them and meet new people. Even if you don't want to do that make yourself do it, you will make friends that will last a life time. Also consider your career, is this something you want to work at, if so then don't give up on it lightly. Also you are not alone, others will be having similar problems and the university will be use to it and will offer support. Talk to anyone you are missing on Skype so as to not feel you are missing them. If after all that you are still unhappy then perhaps it's not for you and there is nothing wrong with that either. Best of luck.

If your problem is simply missing home then grow a pair.
If it's something else then FFS can help you out

So many insecure dudes in here playing the tough card 😆

I know how that feels pal as I'm also in college, really the best advice I can give is to go out & meet people. Join a club you're interested, play a sport, tutor, etc, But be proactive & make it a conscious effort, there's nothing like a good group of friends to chill with & talk to about shite like this.

Was so close to making a bad taste joke about guns

My advice, it really depends on what type of person you are, easy to say make friends but you might be a right boring git or have terrible body odour , though that may help at uni. you may well have come from a good background where your mum made all your meals and washed clothes. Give it time to get used to that stuff and once in a routine you will see how you feel then.

The first few months at Uni are terrible, especially if you're a long way from home and can't easily go back. For most it's the first time they've ever been away from soon, and almost certainly the first time it's for any extended period of time

I really urge you to try and see it out a bit longer it will get better; I promise you that you will not be the only person feeling this way. You'll meet people through your course obviously but I urge you to join a society or 2, they are really good ways to meet people who share similar interests to you

If you still feel this way in a couple of months then it may be time to reasses but please don't drop out now.

I promise you, keep an open and positive mind and after a little while when you've settled in you enjoy it. Few weeks or months of homesickness may feel like a lot now, but when you look back at it afterwards, it really is a meaninglessly short time compared to the rest of your life during which you can be happy about having gone to university.

Do not quit.

Thanks for the kind words and advice everyone; I really appreciate everything you guys have said. I'll have an early night tonight but I'll see what societies I can join tomorrow. I'll stick around a bit longer then I'll reassess the situation.

Thanks once again.

Dude its been a week, try and ride it out. My school always gave the advice to call home as much as you like but don't even visit home in the first six weeks and I think this was great advice. You get that contact with your parents but you don't miss any spontaneous weekend events or parties that there always will be at university which are a great way of meeting people and feeling more at ease.

Are you having doubts about your subject? If you are, ask your personal tutor about switching subjects to something you really find interesting. Universities are usually very accommodating with subject changes and you wont regret it.

You've had great support & some very good advice tonight, that alone should help for now but use it for the following days and weeks as well.
Life can be tough, dark & impossible at times but getting through these challenges are what makes you in the future and you'll be a better person for it. Remember you're never alone or the only person feeling this way.
Malcolm above offers good advice (amongst many others).

Like the helpful ones said, join some clubs and give them a good go. Most of the friends you have at the end of uni probably won't be the same ones you meet in the first couple of weeks. If in a bit you really don't think uni isn't for you, it's not the end of the world to pull out. Depending on what you want to do career wise, you can make a good living without it if you work hard and you can go back again later if you feel you want to. There will be people on campus you can talk to help you make a decision.

To Every Dog has its day, my son went to the same Uni he loved it, but hated sharing a house with four strangers, I told him to come home, if he wasn't happy and he did. Worked for year, and then went back to Uni closer to home, he has just graduated, and has now moved to London as a Marketing Exec for the station were 'not all TV is the same' ps Uni is not for everyone, talk to your family. Good luck.

It's hard to adjust but lots of posters have given good advice (ignore the dicks), focus on the bits you enjoy such as the course. It's important to realise there will be many others in the same boat, but it gets easier, Skype your friends to help get you through, but do get out and about to meet people and give you the opportunity to make new friends. Lot of international matches coming up, get down the bar or local pub to watch some and experience some communal joy or pain - invite some of the flatmates to come - its a chance to start to get them out of their rooms and get to know them.
You have worked hard to get this opportunity - don't throw it away after a few days - give it a fair chance - make a deal with yourself to stick it out for a whole term and assess then - if you still hate it then then fine maybe it's not for you, but by then hopefully things will look a whole lot different. At worst you have wasted a couple of months of your life, the alternative is you could spend the rest of your time regretting a hasty decision (more so even than buying Jonny Evans!)
Join societies, see bands, drink beer, see if the university offers counselling or mentoring support to help you settle in, study hard and enjoy the course, hang in there and give it a chance.
Most importantly think of it as as chance for at least 3 years where you can delay having to do a proper job, chuck it in now and you have to join the grown ups and earn a living (and trust us that's why we say university really is the best years for most people and why we would trade places and replay them in a heartbeat)
Hope things get better for you - its at times like this you find the ffs community aren't all jerks and many of us will help you get through. Email some that have offered to talk - you will find many of us have been in similar positions and may be able to share the odd pearl of wisdom or provide a listening ear.

can't afford to do Sterling > KdB on its own, Mitrovic is a punt for a few weeks before I get in Pelle

Yes

Not sure but guess he wont play Can as CB, Gomez LB etc etc

4-2-3-1

4-5-1 but he wouldn't have Reus, Aubameyang, Hummels or Lewandowski at Liverpool.

Mignolet
Clyne Skrtel Sakho Moreno
Hendo Can
Milner Coutinho Firmino
Sturridge

yay

Yes

I'm doing it, I actually think Martial will get goals soon but I have to get some Southampton cover in

Yes but Mane is exempted from that Championship game , he can only play Friendlies

Yes

Pedro >mane
Gomis > vardy/pelle

i'd look to get rid of darmian and possibly gomis this week

vardy and bertrand

or if you remove pedro and gomis

mane and vardy/pelle

replied on the previous page but

Gomez and Pedro to Dawson/Berty and Mane

I'd hold Ayew

has to be aguero

Gonna have to go with the 1 playing the leakiest defence I think

no cos he'll be back next game.

Why was he dropped?

Nah they got Stoke at home next. Be fine.

Bournemouth is no Newcastle, pull it back a bit

Save the triple c for a dgw mate....

Distin and Cook have Aguero sorted next GW....

I wld have waiting until after internationals on aguero if I didn't have him 2 weeks is a long time

Why didnt you already have him? Kun is essential

Even if you want to triple captain him at least wait til the morning of the game to hit the button.

Same

Unlucky, 111 here.

westwood's 1 off the bench gave me the tonne. very satisfying 🙂

Unlucky 101 here. Still feels average.

Snap

Only 2 double figure scorers!

I got 105 with 9 players

I'm wild carding too. Changing quite a few things other then the standards.

I reckon those look great exchanges for what you are losing

Yep scored 102 and up to 25k and I've hit thenWC button. Wasn't happy with defence and bench options and wanted to get sterling>KDB and Martial>Pelle.. Wanted Gomez, Nyom, Beteleb all out as well.

Pondering the same. I have a Great spine but want to Change most of theother players

Soare is on my radar.

Watford def

Fair play

Congrats!

Good work mate!

Not dropped for the millionth time.

Personal reasons.

Gotta be Berty

Bertie for me JK, if he can be anything like he was last season.

Van Dijk gets forward and goal threat. Baps as well

Card magnet

Worst transfer ever.

Until martial scores

you imagine were always going Dier for his OOP-ness

I like your avatar of Trifon Ivanov.

Erm his stats (members) and the ones every sees on the official site are crazy. Although trust him to go mental after I sold him having started the game with him!

bravo!

111 with a -1 boom

Looks like it's worth a hit. I've taken -24 in hits so far and it's not failed me once yet. Top 20k

Get Theo

I wouldn't dare to not have him.

I'd keep Ayew